My "big sister" Kathryn in backwoods Maine became ill and needed long-distance caregiving. Fortunately, I knew her community well and was able to help her during my many visits and also organize caregiving when I wasn't there. I was grateful to be able to make those trips to help her and to be there when she died. When Kathryn died, my community here in Cleveland, though supportive, were removed from the experience: so my grief was somewhat muted, isolated. The memorial service was held at her home in Maine, and travel to the service was not an option for many family and friends. Looking back, it probably would have been a good idea to have a small memorial service locally. Talking to my sister's friends in Maine and maintaining connections with them was helpful for us all. Helping clients through similar experiences, this is a common theme: grieving in a vacuum when our loved one was not known by our community. To honor our grief, support groups are incredibly helpful. Accepting support, sharing our stories through words and pictures, and being honest about the meaning of our loved one's life and death can help.