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What happens next

PostPosted: Mon Mar 02, 2015 1:23 pm
by andygetz
If you have recently lost a baby, friends and family may have offered all kinds of advice about what to do next. Their words and suggestions may be well meaning. You may have heard that you should pack any infant clothes away or change the nursery. Perhaps you have been encouraged to get pregnant again or to return to work immediately as a distraction. The advice, though well intended may not be helpful. You may need time and space to integrate your experience and feel your loss before you can make any changes. The truth is that you should take all the time you need to pack anything away if that is what feels right for you. Did you have a moment when you were able to pay attention to what you needed to do even if it was different from what those around you suggested? You may have chosen to keep the nursery just the way you wanted to. You may have named your baby and held a Memorial service. Perhaps you choose to wear a necklace with your baby's name or picture. Maybe you quit your job and started a whole new career that is more fulfilling even though it took time to make that happen. This is your loss and you get to decide what is best for you and how you want to remember your baby. Please share any wisdom you have gained.