Here come the holidays....

Grief is a natural response to loss. It can be felt in many ways. Grief’s impact can be emotional, social, spiritual, physical and financial. It is as individual as the person you loved and lost. Grieving while living away from family and friends can be especially difficult. This is a place where you can share your thoughts, and get ideas on how to cope. It is here for you to get support and validation.

Here come the holidays....

Postby KarenH » Fri Dec 12, 2014 8:45 am

Thanksgiving has passed, and our December holidays are approaching QUICKLY! For many, this is the first holiday season without their loved ones, but for others, it may be the second or third. For those of you facing them for the first time, tell us how things are going. For our friends coming up on their second or third season without your loved ones, how are things changing for you? Some people feel that the second year is even more difficult than the first. Is this true for you, or are some aspects of your grief easing? Have you tried out any new traditions? Or returned to old traditions that bring comfort in the memories they bring? Everyone is different, so be sure not to measure your journey "against" anyone else's. Wishing you peace through this holiday season.
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Re: Here come the holidays....

Postby KarenH » Wed Jun 24, 2015 11:21 am

Summer is here, and with it...summer holidays, gatherings and well-meaning expectations from friends and family members who want you to get out and join in the fun. You may be looking forward to this time, or it may be a reminder of the empty space left by the death of your loved one. It could even be a combination of both. Some things to remember as you look ahead to the days of summer, and the events associated with it...

*Be gentle with yourself - accept the invitations that you wish to accept
*Stay as long as you're comfortable - park on the street so that you can leave without having to ask other people to move their cars
*For pot-luck situations, consider taking your loved one's favorite dish to share
*Or...pick up something store-bought and know that that's just fine if you don't have it in you to make something right now
*Enjoy traditions that bring comfort and change those that need to be altered
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Re: Here come the holidays....

Postby kitkat5 » Wed Nov 18, 2015 2:10 pm

Thanksgiving is around the corner and people often ask how they can feel thankful when their loved one has died. That is a fair question because it may seem impossible to feel grateful when grieving. But there are things to be thankful for such as relief from pain or suffering for your loved one or freedom from a debilitating mental state. There are other things we can be thankful for like the values this person taught us, the example he/she set, and the kindness and love that was shown through hugs, kisses, and words. Although it is normally easier to focus on what has been lost because of the death, perhaps the focus can shift to what we still have because this special person was in our lives. Doing this in no way diminishes our grief or sadness which we have a right to, but it may soften the pain a little as we remember the person we loved and lost. May the holiday season be a time of peace, reflections and wonderful memories for you.
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